tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post8839939730782269354..comments2023-09-17T08:25:04.078-04:00Comments on A Thousand Oceans: mikveh nightA.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00949343025406168591noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-78290884007631067442011-07-23T19:05:31.477-04:002011-07-23T19:05:31.477-04:00*hugs* I'm sorry it is a hard time for you rig...*hugs* I'm sorry it is a hard time for you right now. I'm waiting to see if cycle 38 will be starting in the next day or so. I know it isn't #44, but it is getting there. I just wanted to let you know that you find a way to carry on. It still hurts, but if you give up then there is a much bigger chance of not becoming a mom, which is why you continue to keep trying. Stay strong.<br />(ICLW)JustHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-66714545313807840892011-07-23T16:12:19.074-04:002011-07-23T16:12:19.074-04:00Thanks so much for your support, ladies. As usual,...Thanks so much for your support, ladies. As usual, your words really mean a lot to me. It helps to know that others have also had a difficult time reconciling their faith with their infertility, but it also makes me sad to know that it's that way for others, too.A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00949343025406168591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-34299147696435927962011-07-23T10:52:18.298-04:002011-07-23T10:52:18.298-04:00I don't have any answers to your questions -- ...I don't have any answers to your questions -- those are things I struggle with every single day. My faith has taken quite a beating over the past 10 years TTC and (out of self-preservation) I have had to adopt the purely biological explanation of procreation. I simply cannot reconcile any image of a just God giving babies to abusive, neglectful parents and not to the many loving, stable homes that desperately want one.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671922064140460790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-83742962315651815222011-07-23T08:35:01.042-04:002011-07-23T08:35:01.042-04:00Hi from ICLW! Hang in there- sending you a huge h...Hi from ICLW! Hang in there- sending you a huge hug! I'll be hoping that your FET ends with wonderful results!Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03736312490811144529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-78231853738819665922011-07-23T04:47:12.369-04:002011-07-23T04:47:12.369-04:00I wish I could give you a big hug. I agree with Je...I wish I could give you a big hug. I agree with Jem, everything we do and see is through an IF lens; it colours EVERYTHING! As for the FET, I've never had a positive attitude going into them either. I'm hoping and praying for you!Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209567864607495587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-82602418036673585952011-07-22T11:10:40.009-04:002011-07-22T11:10:40.009-04:00Visiting from ICLW. Wishing you all the luck in th...Visiting from ICLW. Wishing you all the luck in the world on your transfer this Sunday. I'm currently doing an IVF cycle as well and my expected transfer date is 2 August. Infertility sucks and sometimes it's hard to keep a positive outlook so don't be too hard on yourself.My New Normalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03482513767849843084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-7628075144504570952011-07-22T09:57:13.343-04:002011-07-22T09:57:13.343-04:00I'm so sorry to hear your mikvah night was lik...I'm so sorry to hear your mikvah night was like this :( I can imagine going month after month when you have been working so hard and have been through so much. My experience with the mikvah yesterday was different probably only because I don't go every month (so no monthly reminders) and my first (and so far only) cycle was so harrowing I was just glad to be done with it. I hope you found some peace last night after all of that, and good luck with your transfer!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-62470703214589427002011-07-22T06:49:16.437-04:002011-07-22T06:49:16.437-04:00A, I'm with you on everything, the people cutt...A, I'm with you on everything, the people cutting in front of you and not doing anything about it, everything. You're stronger than me in the sense that I gave up going to the Mikvah a long time ago. For me giving it up was a way to completely separate the medical from the faith. It doesn't make much sense, but it was the only way I could deal with it. <br />Also, I think it took the whole two weeks between my failed IVF and my FET transfer to emotionally heal from the failure. It wasn't easy, it hit me a lot harder then I expected. Be good to yourself, you are allowed to be upset.<br />Anyway, good luck with the transfer on Sunday! I'm thinking of you and hope it goes smoothly and that those embryos decide to stick around.Timihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12814910313281878807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-69421051658219106742011-07-21T18:16:54.166-04:002011-07-21T18:16:54.166-04:00I'm dropping by for ICLW week and wanted to te...I'm dropping by for ICLW week and wanted to tell you as I am sure you know, you are not alone. I have been dealing with seeing friends and family have one and two babies and we are still in "infertility limbo". I let myself have 24 hours to be upset, mope, cry, be angry, then when time is up, I look at the positive, someone I love is going to have a child and will give me someone else to love while I wait for my baby to get here. I know it may seem cheesy but it is what gets me through the weekly (yes weekly!) pregnancy announcements I have been getting in person, over the phone or on facebook. :)Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02497728611124473224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-11999369257922749862011-07-21T17:49:30.223-04:002011-07-21T17:49:30.223-04:00Everything we do and see is through an IF lens. It...Everything we do and see is through an IF lens. It's so hard not to be angry. Because it's so unfair.<br /><br />I would love to do a mikveh ritual. We do need renewal and to wash away what has come before.Jemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480192191711301637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2490179268765761075.post-4545367735375871382011-07-21T17:49:15.138-04:002011-07-21T17:49:15.138-04:00Oh honey - I wish I had some words of comfort for ...Oh honey - I wish I had some words of comfort for you. I'm in a perpetual faith crisis so I can't help you there. <br />But what I can do is send you a huge hug, cross all appendages for a successful transfer, and offer myself up as a support if you need it. <br />neshikot!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com