Today I went in for my clinic appointment. We have two frozen embryos left in a single straw at this point - a 5-cell BC grade and an 8-cell B grade. I saw the youngest RE in the practice today and I must say that I found his no bullshit responses refreshing.
He basically said what I thought all along - that the 5-cell BC is basically junk and while it is technically possible to get pregnant from an embryo of that grade since the classification schemes we have now are imperfect predictors of an embryo's potential, it would be very usual. Since all of my embryos lost cells last time in the freezing/thawing process, it is very possible the 5-cell embryo will lose too many cells in the thaw to remain viable anyway.
However, the 8-cell B grade embryo is a good embryo and if it thaws well, it has a chance just like any good day 3 embryo. We are going to clean out the freezer and do another medicated FET this month.
I also asked whether the fact that all of my embryos lost cells last time during the thaw was in any way a reflection of the quality or competence of the embryos and he said that it is really a technical issue with the lab and not any embryo-specific problem. I guess that was reassuring in some sense, but it also reaffirmed my feeling that our current clinic is not so up to par in its lab.
I have an appointment in 2 weeks with another RE for a second opinion as we contemplate moving clinics for our next fresh cycle if this FET doesn't pan out. I guess I have mixed feelings about this - I am used to the way things work at my current clinic and I feel a certain sense of loyalty to them. It is also by far the most convenient option for me and I feel like I have a good relationship with the nurses.
On the other hand, I have been at the same clinic for 13 months now with no viable pregnancy (ironically despite what everyone keeps assuring me is an amazing prognosis), I have serious doubts about the practices and quality of the lab, and the institutional attitude is just not so proactive.
It is maddening constantly wondering whether I have just been really unlucky with the last 5 embryos transferred (but do indeed have a great prognosis) or whether there is something major going on that just hasn't been uncovered. Of course, the truth of my situation could certainly lie somewhere in between those 2 possibilities but I have a little trouble sometimes with the many shades of gray:) I also oftentimes wonder whether during many of those IUIs, we also had eggs that fertilized and became embryos but never implanted.
AF arrived full-force late this afternoon so tomorrow it's back to the clinic for baseline and assuming all is clear, back to little blue pills and estrogen headaches...yum.
Lastly, thank you so, so much for all of the support over the past week. Your comments mean so much to me and truly brighten my day when I am feeling down.